By: Carol Maxym Ph.D.
Many of us are familiar with the boiling frog metaphor. Below, you’ll see how kids and teens use different tactics such as intimidation and manipulation to create chaos and unhappiness.
HOW TO BOIL A FROG RECIPE
1. Place a frog in large pot of cool water. Place the pot on stove.
2. Continue to heat the water slowly; be careful not to increase the heat too rapidly. The Frog will acclimate itself to the temperature and will not try to escape to save itself.
3. Continue cooking over slowly increasing heat until thoroughly cooked.
Dropping the frog directly into boiling water, will cause it to jump right out of the pot to save itself.
HOW A TEEN BOILS A FAMILY RECIPE
Using low but constant tension, agitating continuously:
1. Intimidate and bully parents.
2. Making certain not to bring to a quick boil, carefully combine lies with manipulations. Add a pinch of need to be rescued.
3. Making sure to keep parents unaware of the increasing confusion, pit parents against each other until they explode. Be sure to allow
parents to justify, excuse, and rationalize the increasing chaos, unhappiness, and failure.
If you act too precipitously, your family may realize what you are doing and react.